Marriage Is For Broken people

Marriage is for the broken. I mean those who have mortified their flesh. Does it then mean that anybody that has not attained this level cannot marry? Of course not. They can marry but making a success out of the marriage is impossible.

The devil understands this and he is okay with it. He is even happy with the idea of immature people getting married, so far as they don’t get to fulfill God's mandate and agenda.

They could even spend millions of Naira on the wedding, with an elaborate and classic wedding. What matters most is how the marriage is going. How much does the husband love his wife as Christ loved the church? How much does the wife submit to her own husband?

God has given both the wife and the husband specific roles and functions in the marriage. This role is an individual mandate that is not dependent on what the other partner does or doesn’t do.

For if ye live after the flesh, ye shall die: but if ye through the Spirit do mortify the deeds of the body, ye shall live. - Rom 8:13 

The flesh has deeds or works.

Now the works of the flesh are manifest, which are these; Adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lasciviousness, Idolatry, witchcraft, hatred, variance, emulations, wrath, strife, seditions, heresies, Envyings, murders, drunkenness, revellings, and such like: of the which I tell you before, as I have also told you in time past, that they which do such things shall not inherit the kingdom of God. - Gal 5:19- 22

There is a kingdom of God to be inherited by us in our marriage but ‘Those who do entertain the works of the flesh cannot inherit the kingdom of God.

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One Person You Cannot Do Without in Marriage

I have discovered that in our marriage relationship, we can not afford to go on the journey alone. There is such peculiarity in our marriage that it takes the Holy Spirit to help us.

The Holy Spirit is a person. He is real. He is alive and He dwells in us. It is amazing that we have so much help available in Him yet we seek help every where.

Howbeit when he, the Spirit of truth, is come, he will guide you into all truth: for he shall not speak of himself; but whatsoever he shall hear, that shall he speak: and he will shew you things to come. - Joh 16:13

The Holy Spirit is the spirit of truth. He knows the real truth about every situation. He will not lie to us. Most of the time that we claim our spouses are too harsh on us, it is our flesh reacting. Our flesh wants to resist the truth.

I remember when my husband was correcting me and I felt bad about the correction. I even fasted telling God how wrong my husband was. I wanted God to correct him. It took the Holy Spirit to show me I was wrong. That I had to be broken and submissive to my husband.

After that encounter, I was gentle and sober. I stopped all my ‘gragra’.

The Holy Spirit is so wonderful. He will keep you calm in situations where your flesh wants to be strong and stubborn.

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Building To Last In Marriage – Part 4

We have been looking at this topic for some time now and I will be taking the concluding part of the same topic.

I pray and sincerely hope this message will bring couples to ways they can discuss this together to find their own way of implementing the points. There may be ways based on their peculiar situation, they could adapt the points discussed here.

8.  Never talk bad about your spouse to anybody

Respect the covenant between you. Let no one be able to come between you. Don’t betray trust. Defend each other. Don’t fight with each other but fight for each other. Don’t fight your spouse because of any other person. Don’t give any other person the privilege of being more special than your spouse. It will backfire. What is between the two of you cannot be compared with any other relationship.

9.  Love jeru trip

Enjoy Jerusalem trips. It is pleasure to both of you. Never get tired of each other. Give yourself to one another unhindered

10. Keep the word ‘divorce’ out of your dictionary

Remember your marriage vows. It is till death do us part. There are no problems without solutions. There are issues, challenges but there are ways of handling them. We may not be patient enough or seek God’s face enough to find a lasting solution. God has promised us a way of escape.

Jesus said in John 14:6, ‘I am the way, the truth, and the life

Have a bulldog approach to your marriage. Whatever happens, God can restore and make all things new. That doesn’t mean staying in an abusive relationship and environment. Seek all the help you can get for your marriage to be better.

11. Understand each other’s love language

Your love language is like your native mother language, you are most comfortable speaking it and have a free flow with it.

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How You Should Not Fall In Love - Part 2

2. Don’t fall in love hopelessly.

When you are falling in love, fall in love with some life! Don’t fall in love with a profile on social media. You may be disappointed. Don’t fall in love with a picture! You never know who you are dealing with!

Before you give your heart out, be sure you see the person you are dealing with, or else your heart can be wrenched apart!

“Pastor, it is not just a profile, I heard his voice!” It is still the same hopelessness, falling in love with a voice. Who owns the voice?

For the previous day's devotional, go HERE

The rule of thumb is simple, never give any commitment to someone you have not seen. 

If he is not committed to travel down to where you are, or he doesn’t have enough money to come or he doesn’t have the time, then he is not ready for marriage.

I know there can be situations when the persons are far away, probably in another country, then get family members who are around involved.

You cannot just fix a wedding date with somebody in Brazil and then travel there. I cannot recount how many have called me to talk about the greatest disappointments of their lives upon emptying their accounts and resigning from work to go and meet a guy somewhere who eventually turns out to be mentally imbalanced. A word is enough for the wise.

3. Don’t fall in love carelessly.

Don’t fall in love carelessly.

You met two hours ago. Now you are in bed! That is not love...

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Building To Last In Marriage – Part 3

A lovely day it is to once again look into our topic, building a happy and lasting marriage.

It takes a conscious effort to build anything. Jesus showed us how to build. He says we must dig deep and lay the foundation on the rock, on solid principles that are void of sentiments. Build with godly principles that will outlive the test of time.

Whosoever cometh to me, and heareth my sayings, and doeth them, I will shew you to whom he is like: He is like a man which built an house, and digged deep, and laid the foundation on a rock: and when the flood arose, the stream beat vehemently upon that house, and could not shake it: for it was founded upon a rock. - Luk 6:47- 48

5. Be polite to each other

This is very crucial if you must build a lasting marriage where both spouses are happy. Most of the time, the husband's ego makes it difficult to be polite to his wife. He feels why should I say sorry, thank you, or please. If he says it at all, he does so once in a while.

If the wife mentions it, he says ‘I am the husband’.  In marriage, we don’t take each other for granted. Later than sooner, there will be reactions. Respect should be reciprocal.

6.  Always listen attentively to your spouse.

Make it a habit to always listen when your spouse is talking.  When the spouse senses that you are not listening, it gives a feeling he/she is not so important to you. You must make your spouse feel like they are the most important person in this world to you because really they are.

Stop looking at your phones, iPad, laptop or watching the news, or reading a book when your spouse is talking to you.

The best communication skill you can develop is listening. Be quiet and patient while your spouse is speaking and you can now express your opinion. Look straight into his/her eyes when he /she is talking to you. That will make them feel you are interested in what they have to say...

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Some thoughts on love, loving, jeru trip, jeru trap and being led of God

Day 1 of KHC Camp Meeting Pictures are out. You can find them on our Facebook Page or on this blog

Bless God for the just concluded KHC Camp Meeting 2015. Many testimonies have been pouring in. We might not be able to share everything here, but here are two of them.

Supernatural Supply
I gave 5k as a pledge on the day Rev Oduwole came. It was the last amount I had on me, but I was convinced God wanted me to give it. I went out and cry a little. The following day, I got 90K as a gift. That last time I had an amount like that was when I was working. Praise God. Sister T.

Deliverance from bad dreams
To God be the glory, sir I was delivered of bad dreams like eating and having jeru trap in my dreams during the camp meeting. Before

Five ways I became sure that Sophia would be my wife - Part 2

Pastors Dunamis & Sophia

Good morning, Dear KHCItes. I started writing yesterday on Five ways I became sure that Sophia would be my wife. I mentioned three things yesterday which include

1. I had a knowing
2. I was given to dreams and visions
3. There was mutual attraction

This morning, we will continue.

But before we go on, must one be sure?  And the answer is Yes!

 You see, there are challenges that will come ahead. One of the most important battle strategies is understanding who your enemy is!

If you are already sure of your spouse, when challenges

Five ways to know you are in love or someone is in love with you

Now, to today's Devotional,

Ade is all over Sandy. He professes that he cannot even breathe without her (and that could just be asthma!)

Sandy is not sure of his love and yet he is all over her. He is actually obsessed. How would she know if he really loves her?

Yesterday, I wrote about five things you need to know about falling in love and I just thought it would be good to have a sequel on Five ways to know you are in love or someone is in love with you

Does he really love me? Does she really love me? Sometimes it is hard to tell because of different situations.

Is he after my money or really in love? Is she just interested