Five ways to know you are in love or someone is in love with you

Now, to today's Devotional,

Ade is all over Sandy. He professes that he cannot even breathe without her (and that could just be asthma!)

Sandy is not sure of his love and yet he is all over her. He is actually obsessed. How would she know if he really loves her?

Yesterday, I wrote about five things you need to know about falling in love and I just thought it would be good to have a sequel on Five ways to know you are in love or someone is in love with you

Does he really love me? Does she really love me? Sometimes it is hard to tell because of different situations.

Is he after my money or really in love? Is she just interested
in my house or just my car? How can I be sure?

You see there are different kinds of people out there. You need to know that the person you are getting married to is on the same page with you.

This even becomes important because marriage is the field where two people can be in agreement and get things done spiritually. If two or more people shall agree concerning anything, it shall be done!

So how do I know if someone really loves me? How do I know if my spouse is still in love with me?

1. There will be mutual understanding
The first thing is that there will be understanding. This is crucial to any relationship or marriage that will succeed. He or she might not have known you for many years, but there will be high level of understanding on several levels.

"Can two walk together, except they be agreed?"  (Amo 3:3, KJV)

If you are not on the same page, there can’t be love! Love and lust can act very similar, but what is in the heart is entirely different. Lust can be so obsessed of you and yet it is not love! Remember Amnon and Tamar? Lust can buy you a car and a house and yet all it seeks to achieve is to have your body on the bed. That is not love, it is more of perverted love!

One level of understanding is your faith in God. If he or she is not interested in God while you are passionate with God, you need to speak to your legs!

Listen to me young ladies and guys, if somebody speaks ill of your God, that relationship already is a mess! There must be mutual understanding of fundamental issues, otherwise, that would lead to several cracks later when the initial love blindness goes.

2. There will be genuine expression of love
The second way you know if somebody loves you will be his or her expressions. The only problem is that lust expresses itself as much as love does. Ho do you know when lust is lying and when love is actually speaking the truth?

" O generation of vipers, how can ye, being evil, speak good things? for out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaketh. "  (Mat 12:34, KJV)

The mouth speaks whatever is domiciled in the heart. Watch his or her utterances. What a person says will eventually betray him. Words have a way of exposing a person and you can’t really hide for long.

How do you measure a person’s wisdom or foolishness? There is nothing like wisdom-ometer or foolish-mo-meter!  There is nothing like that, but the words of his or her mouth will eventually reveal what is in the heart.

"All my life I've been charmed by his speech, never dreaming he'd turn on me. His words, which were music to my ears, turned to daggers in my heart."  (Psa 55:21, MSG)

“I don't really believe there is any wrong with jeru trap!” The moment he or she says that, you don't need any prophet to tell you what is in his heart and what he would ask eventually.

3. There will be delayed gratification
Again, one other way you know true love is ability for delayed gratification. Is he or she willing to wait and delay gratification or just in a hurry to explore your body?

When he is willing to wait, that is true love. When he is not willing to wait, there are issues there! If he is doing all he can just to sleep with you, that is not true love!

But pastor, when you love someone, you really want to take the relationship to the highest physical level possible. Yes, that is true! I felt like that too. But did I do anything? No! Why did I wait? The fear of God. That was it!

Do you love someone enough to protect such a person from offending God? Do you love her enough to keep your flesh away so that her virtue will not be compromised on the altar of your lust? Do you love her enough to not see her as a jeru trip object? Do you love her enough not to violate her conscience and her faith in God? That is true love. That is the kind of person you should go for!

4. There will be sacrifice involved
Another way you know if somebody loves you is willingness to sacrifice for you. He or she wants to go to any mile to do what you want without compromising and offending God. I remember when I was in love while on Campus, I could do anything. We lived in the same hall. I remember I fetched water for her without caring whatever anybody would say. Jesus is Lord!

How far is he or she able to go when you need something done urgently? Is it when you need a help that he suddenly disappears? That is not love!

5. There will be acceptance
If someone loves you, the person will accept you.

If someone despises your presence, he or she does not love you, maybe he is just looking for something to get.

She can’t walk with you on the road. She feels embarrassed to introduce you to her friends. Listen to me, something is wrong somewhere!

He tells you that he is just managing you and that he has several girlfriends. What are you doing under that kind of affliction?

He manipulates your emotions to sleep with you. He makes you feel less of yourself and tells you that you are lucky to have him? You know what? When he is done sleeping with you, he will dump you! I can assure you!

Never allow people to treat you like a piece of dung. You are created in the image of God and you should carry yourself with some dignity!

In marriage, if you start feeling that your spouse does not love you again, you should discuss it. Talk about it, seek help and don't allow the devil to plant seeds of distrust and doubt in you marriage!

I pray for you this morning, that God will indeed intervene in whatever situation you are in, and that God will send specific help as needed to you in Jesus name!

CONFESSION FOR THE DAY
I will not be confused. God will lead me by His Spirit

PRAYER FOR THE DAY
Lord, do something great in my life this week. Supply all my needs supernaturally.

THOUGHT FOR THE DAY
"The words of his mouth were smoother than cream or butter, but war was in his heart; his words were softer than oil, yet they were drawn swords."  (Psa 55:21, AMP)

ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY
Register for Camp-Meeting 2015 and secure your accommodation and feeding. If proximity will not allow you, be part of it with your seed. The same grace will reach you where you are.

READ THROUGH THE BIBLE IN ONE YEAR
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