The way of a man with his maid

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"You don't respect me!" Most men have voiced that out to their fiancees or wives.

"He doesn't love me!" Most women have thought about this!

Men are are logical and they tend to interpret most

things from the logic end.

The logic is “I am the head of the house. The decision is mine. The bucks stop at my table.”

A woman interprets things from relationship point of view. Her thoughts are “If he really loves me, he wouldn’t do this or that, he would spend time with me and so on and so forth.

Now, if your wife ever looked you in the face and tell you, “You don’t love me,” you don’t need to argue at all. She is the one that is supposed to receive the love and she can’t feel it. Rather than get logical and rant about what you did last year and so on, be humble and try to understand what she is trying to say and what love means to her.

Until you understand her definition of love and conform to it, it would be a waste of time, energy and oftentimes resources.

The same way if your husband tells you repeatedly that you don’t respect him, you don’t need to get hurt or moody over that and manipulate his emotions through silent treatment and Lo-debar flights until he comes to apologise for saying what he feels.

Rather than get hurt over that, simply try to enter his thought chambers through loving communication to find out his concept of respect. To one man, it could be as simple as genuflecting (bending the knee a little). He is simply “traditional” and he has seen his mum and siblings do that for his dad for forty years. It has been tattooed into his brain and if he voices that out to you as what he wants, be smart enough to do it.

It wouldn’t demean you, it will bring peace to your home and the surprising thing, after a while he wouldn’t demand that again because in his mindset would be the thought, “My wife respects me!”

To some other man, it is cooking a good meal. The important thing is to find out what your husband deems as respect and do it!

If you keep getting hurt over everything at your husband, after a while he would simply keep quiet and that would impact communication. You wouldn’t want to know the consequences of that.

Study your husband. Generally, men don’t talk until they are sure of what they want to do or the decision they want to take. Have you ever asked your husband or fiance on some pressing issues and he refuses to say a word? And you are hurt because he ignored you?

Let me tell you something, he didn’t he ignore you. The reality is that he didn’t know what to say or what to do. The proper thing is to say, “Dear, give me some time to think about that.”

But most times, when a man is confused, he will simply keep quiet and refuse to say a word. His ego would not allow him to own up and say something like, “Dear, on this issue, I am as confused as you!”

Here is the difference between a man and a woman

A man thinks his way into a decision. His vehicle is thoughts.

A woman talks her way into her a decision. Her vehicle is talks.

So, there is always tension and difficulty in communication when a woman wants to talk her way into a decision that a man has not thought about!

Learn to give him time to arrive!

Learn about him and there would be fewer conflicts. This is why a lot of marriages crack and most courtships dissolve.

May God grant more understanding.

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CONFESSION FOR THE DAY
I have God's wisdom

PRAYER FOR THE DAY
Lord, keep my emotions from running wild

THOUGHT FOR THE DAY
"And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God."  (Rom 12:2, KJV)

ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY
Read God's word today meditatively

READ THROUGH THE BIBLE IN ONE YEAR 

Matthew 15; Mark 7